I Brought The Girls With the Trash Bags















Follow God’s example, therefore, as dearly loved children and walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God. [ Ephesians 5:1-2 ]

When our medical director, Dr Oliva, asked if I would accompany two of our patients to a weekend “Diabetic Bootcamp” on the Caribbean shore of eastern Guatemala, I said yes… but there was a lot of trepidation in my response.

Of course I was so excited for the experience the girls would have— their first opportunity to see the east coast, to feel the sand beneath their toes and taste the salty water, to better learn how to manage their diagnosis, and to meet other children learning to live with diabetes. Yolanda and Dulce excitedly packed a few of their belongings into black trash bags.

We would be meeting up with nearly 100 others coming from Guatemala City. As excited as I was for Dulce and Yolanda to meet these other children, I was so very nervous.  You see, the divide between middle class and families in poverty is so staggering, that most Guatemalans who live in the city wouldn’t even believe it. Sure, they had heard of a few cases of families in extreme poverty, but I was about to board a bus full of hundreds of kids with two special needs girls who come from villages that were poorer than poor. Yolanda is deaf and because she was raised in a remote village, she spent most of her life communicating in her own language. Dulce has recently had har vision restored after having surgery to treat complications from diabetic retinopathy, her mother died from diabetic complications. Each girl lives in a mud hut without access to electricity or running water.

I masked my anxiety with a smile as we boarded the bus. “Please let them be nice to us,” I prayed, knowing how ruthless kids are these days.

You could tell immediately how different their lives were compared to Dulce and Yolanda. Boarding the bus I noticed kids wearing name brand clothing, modern hair cuts, playing on iPhones, and their belongings safely packed into patterned suitcases and monogram duffel bags. Ae walked down the aisle of children, Yolanda obliviously plowed through the crowd and lugged her trashbag up onto a rack above the seats, where it almost immediately fell onto the unsuspecting child sitting below it. “I DONT WANT TO SIT WITH YOU, YOU MADE US LATE!” Yolanda signed to me from the back of the bus. We weren’t actually late, we were just the final pickup point, but now was not the time to argue with Yolanda. I loaded Dulce’s trashbag and got the girls settled into seats before finding my own. Would all the other kids notice that my girls only had a couple of outfits and some basic hygiene items in their trash bag? My heart longed for them to find connection, but the reality was that I knew it would be difficult because of their differences.

But wouldn’t you know— I worried about those trash bags far more than I ever needed to. I’m certain the other kids noticed, but nearly all of them chose to overlook the differences and get to know the amazing, sweet girls that Dulce and Yolanda are.  They included the girls in activities, practiced sign language with Yolanda, and listened intently when we found a possum in our cabin and Dulce explained that one time they ate possum in her village to celebrate a big event… “but I’m not sure how many carbohydrates are in possum,” Dulce said, and the room of carb-counting diabetic children burst out laughing at her joke. As much as it warmed my heart watching Dulce and Yolanda experience all these new things, it warmed my heart even more watching all these kids choose kindness and inclusion as they were little living examples of Ephesians 5:1-2.

I wish things like poverty, rejection, and type one diabetes didn’t exist in this world… but I am thankful to know and be known by a Savior who welcomes us with open arms despite what we are bringing aboard in our trash bags. In the middle of this Christmas season, I am so deeply thankful for this truth.

“Jesus entered into this world to love people as they are. The heart of the vision of Jesus is to bring people together, to meet, to engage in dialogue, to love each other. Jesus wants to break down the walls that separate people and groups. How will He do this? He will start by saying to each one, ‘You are important. You are precious.’  —Living Gently in a Violent World

God is good, You are loved, & a very Merry Christmas.

-Whitney 

Here are the most precious pictures of the most precious girls. I am planning to print them each a photo book of their special memories to give them when we return in January. Special thank you to Dra. Maya Serrano, Dr. Edwin Oliva, Carol Duque, and Hope of Life leadership for making this possible. And thank you for entrusting me to take them.💛

Praying these two sweet girls remember all they learned at this impactful weekend so that they can thrive and grow in their own homes! Thank you to our supporters for allowing us to be part of the transformative work happening here in Guatemala.

Use Words

I’m sure you’ve heard it said before… and maybe you’ve even reposted the saying, scribbled neatly in modern calligraphy and surrounded by flowers… “Preach the Gospel always. If necessary, use words.”

But can I offer some truth?

Unpopular opinion, I know…

This theology isn’t only inaccurate, but it is dangerous. Words aren’t just necessary, there are absolutely critical in understanding the foundation of the Gospel. Yes, we can strive for our lives to reflect that of our Savior… However, my life’s example will only leave people disappointed and confused. Jesus’ words offer unrelenting truth and consistency in a world desperate for assurance.

We were already out in the mountains when we received a call about a lady named Brenda needing urgent help. Tears immediately flowed when I saw her picture. Because she was an adult, she didn’t meet the demographic to be admitted to St Luke’s, but there was no way we were leaving her where she was. 

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A Great Purpose

Being on the frontlines of seeing babies grow and be saved is a high honor that I carry close to my heart. Watching their progress and sharing with others the work The Lord is doing through Hope of Life and the team at St Luke’s is one of my greatest joys. What we see is miraculous. But there is a darker side of my job that I don’t like to speak about very often…

Being on the frontlines also means you are the one there to hear a mother’s horrified crying as you carry her lifeless baby in a silk wrapped burial box. You are there to catch her as she almost collapses into the muddy hillside because grief and sadness have overcome her body… and she shakes as she sobs into your chest… and all the rain that falls cannot drown out the sight of your tears or the sound of her screams. Those moments are literally what nightmares are made of.

Today is National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Day and also the International Day of Rural Women.

Could I just combine the two of these days to take a moment to spread awareness of the battle that the women of rural Guatemala face? The rate at which babies are dying in these mountains brings me to my knees.

In the past three days, we have lost three babies. One, I had prayed over for a night. One, I had prayed over for three weeks. And the other, I had prayed for over the past two years.

How deep it must hurt for you to read this post, know that it hurts even deeper for me to write it. To somehow try to formulate words for these traumatic moments, all the while knowing that their stories were beautiful even though the ending was ugly. And even deeper still is the hurt that I see in their mamás eyes and tear soaked faces. Maybe one day I will share their full stories, but today my heart hurts too much to write.

If nothing else— know that these babies didn’t die in vain. My friend Julia Homan said it best… “if this narrative softens the heart of even one towards those who look/talk/believe differently, then their short life will have served a great purpose.” Allow these stories to fuel you with a fire to have compassion for the women in Guatemala. Allow them to break your heart with the understanding that government corruption, violence, and a lack of support have left them without help and without hope… and babies are dying because of it. We cannot turn a blind eye to what is happening here in the Corredor Seco of Guatemala, these babies need our help. We pick up and push on to be harbingers of hope in this dry valley of hurt. And I share their painful stories so that their lives serve a great purpose.

One thing I know for certain, is God weeps when He sees what I’ve seen these past few days. And if you, too, have experienced loss and this day stirs up your emotions as well, He weeps with you too. He is close to the broken hearted. (Psalm 34:18)

Each of these three babies were deeply loved.

You are loved, too.

-Whitney

Erickson was 15 days old and weighed just above 3 pounds. Hope of Life set out for him the moment we heard of his case, but he passed away the next morning in a different hospital. His malnutrition was so severe it had already started shutting down his little body.
Baby Rufino was 2 months and only 5 pounds. Along with malnutrition, he was suffering from pneumonia and his body was too weak to fight it despite several weeks of antibiotics and admission into the NICU at Chiquimula.
And maybe the most difficult of all was the loss of our sweet Deisy. She gave me so much hope that things would be okay… but a long battle of chronic complications took her from us.
She was loved by so many… even by my own mama.
Allow each of these images to break your heart… so that these little lives will have served a great purpose.

A Great Purpose

Cristofer’s Tooth

His mama giggled as she sat him down, “Mira, seño Whitney!” she exclaimed, pointing at her son’s new tooth that emerged over night.  9 month old Cristofer sat grinning, almost as if he was self aware of his brand new tooth.  I clapped.  I cried.  I took pictures.  And we all laughed together in awe of his new smile!

9 months ago, I couldn’t have even imagined a tomorrow… much less Cristofer’s first tooth.  We were out in the mountains that day to take pain medication to a young boy who was dying from bone cancer when we received a call about a critical baby.  We hurried to meet them.  As his mama placed her dying baby into my arms, she choked back tears and begged me to save him.  His little nose flared as he arched his back and opened his mouth.  An odd mixture of weak but active, he was fighting his hardest to breathe.  54% flashed in red lights on the pulse oximeter as his heart raced and you could hear the high pitch wheeze as he struggled to inhale. (Read what I posted the day it all happened by clicking HERE)

Cristofer was in critical condition when we arrived.

We got him to the national hospital in Chiquimula just in time.

We rushed him to the National hospital in Chiquimula where he could be admitted to the NICU and stabilized.  After getting bloodwork and hooking him up to IV’s, the staff wheeled him away as his mama locked eyes with me.  I could hear her words reverberating in my head…  “Please save him.”  It was so hard to walk away, knowing it was out of my hands and that I may never see them again.

Calling every day to see how he was doing, the staff would update us on Cristofer’s small victories.  His vitals stayed stable overnight.  We are removing his breathing tubes.  His oxygen has tapered down to 2 liters.  He’s gaining weight.  He’s being discharged to us!

After a month of intensive treatment, he came back looking so much better!

Through our nutrition program at HOL, Cristofer began to put on healthy weight and grow stronger!

Proud mamá, healthy baby.

Cristofer has some chronic health conditions that he will always deal with, but he is alive and thriving now and for that, I am happy.  In this season, I will always choose to celebrate even the littlest victory, because I know daily victories turn into much bigger victories in time.  Cristofer’s first tooth is so much more than just a developmental milestone that he has achieved, it is a symbol of his growth and a reminder of all he has overcome! As a new mamá, I am reminded to be thankful in all things– including a teething baby and a strong, healthy, oxygenated crying baby.  I pray that Cristofer comes to know the saving grace of Jesus one day– and that when his mamá placed him in my arms and begged me to help him, he was already securely surrounded by Jesus’ healing hands.  ¡Adelante, Cristofer!  Bigger things are yet to come for you, sweet boy.

You are loved.
-Whitney

Be Still

“JUST… BE… STILL.” I loudly whispered at the squirming baby who was covered ankles to ears in his own poop.  I was somewhere between wanting to laugh and wanting to cry as we moved around in the dark getting cleaned up and trying not to wake up Bryan.  However, as the word “still” left my mouth, I realized that the words I spoke to my baby were the very same words that God wanted to speak to me.

We came back to the states a whole month early due to the passing of Bryan’s grandmother.  It was a loss that wasn’t entirely unexpected due to her failing health, but painful nevertheless.  Mawmaw embodied what people love about West Virginians– she was a homebody who loved God, loved her family, and always had a meal spread out on the table when you’d come to visit.  She will surely be missed, but we are thankful for the hope we have knowing she is whole again at Jesus’ feet.  We were fortunate to be with family during this time, and bringing a new baby to meet everyone was a welcomed happiness.

As things began to settle, we looked at our options.  We could return to Guatemala for 3 weeks (which would mean paying lots of $$ and doing two additional flights- there and back- with a baby) or we could stay stateside a full two months.  While we love seeing family, it is so incredibly difficult to be away from home and away from work for so long… but it was what made the most sense.  Especially during a time such as this, we wanted more time with family.

However, on week #2 of being here, I started to become restless.  Through my prayers, the words “Be. Still.” kept reverberating in my head.  Obviously, Psalm 46:10 came to mind.  In my restlessness and difficulty giving up control, I had to learn to be still.  To be in the moment.  To appreciate sweet moments with family rather than to stress about what I was ‘missing out’ on in Guate.  Many of our patients will come and go, babies will grow and be discharged home, families will be discharged from our program, and everything will be different by the time we return, but John will only be this little once and we will do our best to enjoy our unexpectedly extended summer here in the states.  But I know God will use this time, too.

This is the price to pay when your heart has two homes.  It’s difficult being here, difficult being there…  but somehow in the middle of all of that, we have double the amount of people to love.  And for that reason, I can learn be still and enjoy where we’re at today.

You are loved.
-Whitney

 

John enjoying life in the states:

 

A few of the faces we anxiously wait to return home to:

Sweet Santos Cecelia is healthy enough to go home!

Stay tuned for this precious girl’s story!💛

Yolanda loves John and always puts him to sleep for me while I spend time with the mamás <3

Sweet baby boy, I can only imagine how much you’re growing!

Baby Elida is home now, but I cannot wait to see her again when she comes in for followup!

Leonel is healthy and moving all over the place now! Little miracle baby.

1 month. 3 pounds. 100% adorable.

40 Days.

In Matthew 4:1-11, we read a story about how Jesus was tested in the wilderness for 40 days.  Not that I’m trying to chalk up my life to that of Jesus, but here on day 39 of 2019, we’ve had our moments of walking through the wilderness, blindfolded, arms open and hearts surrendered and trusting God through some difficult times.

When our sending church from Virginia announced they would be pulling their support at the end of this year, we had to step back and re-evaluate.  “God, is this where you REALLY want us?  Are you SURE?”  In the hurt and confusion of all of this, my mind became darkened with doubt.  I recalled a blog post when I announced our pregnancy.  Just a couple months prior, God was very clear that we were to stay here as we embarked in this new journey.  “Quedar” is the Spanish word.  Stay.  Wait.  Remain.  I had felt peace then, why couldn’t I feel it now?

I was soon to see God’s grace in full blown high-lighter yellow.

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Jesus Needs New PR

I love Christmas. The tree is up and my lights have been hung for weeks now. I started watching Home Alone once October rolled around. I’ve been drinking peppermint hot chocolate and sitting in front of the AC, pretending it’s not still 88° here.  I know… “but what about Thanksgiving!” some will plea. Listen, I love food more than the average person. Snacks is practically my middle name. I married a chef. And let’s not fail to mention that the majority of my tattoos are food related. I will never and could never forget the day we celebrate gluttony and mashed potatoes. I just prefer to stuff my face by the holly jolly glow of Christmas lights. I would truly leave the decorations up year round if I thought they wouldn’t lose their magic and wonder by about month 3.

As we sat in our Sunday evening home church, singing Christmas songs, all felt right in the world. I was belting out the words and really feeling festive until the verse of “O Holy Night” hit me like a two pound bag of potatoes right in the gut.   

“Truly He taught us to love one another,
His law is love and His gospel is peace.
Chains He shall break, for the slave is our brother.
And in his name all oppression shall cease.”

I guess I had never really paid attention to what it was saying. I suppose I had always sang it out of habit, rushing to get to the better known chorus. But man, what a timely word for the world we live in these days. 

Just a few short weeks ago, a political and socioeconomic crisis caused the mass exodus of somewhere around 5,000 Hondurans that walked right past our house. Women, children and elderly people displaced, and yes, even some men who owned cell phones in the mix. They passed through Guatemala and deeply depended on the generosity of a country whose people are also in dire straits. I watched posts crop up on social media about the notion that this was politically driven. I watched the further exploitation and demonization of poor people… headlines depicting hoards of men, no women or children in site. And these men had cellphones! Life must not be too bad if you can acquire a cellphone!

But on the other end of the spectrum, I watched the real story unfold with my own eyes. Desperate people seeking refuge, and even acquiring some Guatemalans along their journey who also sought help. Men carrying children while allowing the women to board a truck and hitch a ride. While West Virginia celebrated bridge day, I saw beautiful pictures of thrill seekers jumping off the New River Gorge bridge and parachuting to the ground below. At the same time, I was flipping through Guatemalan news articles. People were also jumping off of a bridge here in Guatemala… however, it was children trying to pass through the murky waters of the Mexican border on their journey to refuge. Many of those children were unaware of the depths of the water and were swept away to a watery grave.

It’s confusing to me that some hearts are so hardened that these true stories don’t even affect them. However, if the opinion you have of the gospel of Jesus Christ and how we treat others is influenced by people, by a political agenda, by internet memes, or by anything other than the Bible itself, I beg you to consider that maybe today’s social media Jesus needs new PR.

Please don’t let your crazy Aunt Betty’s hyper patriotism or misdirected fear of what is bad and evil in this world be the bearing on what you call Christianity. I challenge you to look for yourself at who the Jesus of The Bible is- kind, compassionate, forgiving… but also still God- and worthy of our reverence and praise. People (myself included) will always fall miserably short when it comes to searching for an earthly picture of who Jesus was and what He stands for.

I know there’s only so much the US can do to help. That’s why we uprooted ourselves and brought help here. And while you may not be called to do the same, I do believe all of us are called to do SOMETHING… to look upon these types of situations with eyes of compassion and a heart willing to step in and help. Help looks like a lot of things- and as Giving Tuesday approaches us next week, one way you can be effective in helping is by supporting those of us on the frontlines. As we raise our own support, our finances and skills are invested back into the Guatemalan community— helping families to thrive here by empowering them with education, healthcare, and by just loving them where they’re at.

As Kevin McCallister’s mom, Kate, on Home Alone so desperately pleads… “THIS IS CHRISTMAS. THE SEASON OF PERPETUAL HOPE.” I also want to leave you with a final piece of hope…

If the message you’re preaching isn’t GOOD NEWS for every person— every nation, every tribe, every ethnicity, every tongue— then it isn’t the real gospel.

In His name, all oppression shall cease. 💛

You are loved.
Whitney

Measuring Malnutrition

“How sweet!  She looks so healthy with her chubby cheeks!”

Sometimes malnutrition is easy to spot– a three month old clocking in at only 3 pounds, her ribs prominent, her crying only consoled by a bottle of milk that she quickly consumes.

But in other cases, malnutrition can be very difficult to detect to the untrained eye.  Clothed and standing on a scale, a child can sometimes meet all the criteria to be deemed ‘healthy’, but through skillful assessment and observation, you can gain a more accurate picture of what is going on ‘beneath the surface.’  This type of malnutrition is silent and insidious and is claiming the lives of many children here in remote Guatemala.  Hope of Life is fighting daily to reverse the statistics.

So, heads up… NERD ALERT.  This purpose of this blog post is to give a little bit of medical perspective to what we see and treat daily here in Guatemala.  Today, I am only focusing on the two types of acute malnutrition we treat most often here in rural Guatemala– Marasmus and Kwashiorkor.

 

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Stay & Wait

I will stay should the world by me fold
Lift up Your name as the darkness falls
I will wait and hold fast to Your word
Heart on Your heart and my eyes on Yours

-Hillsong “Stay and Wait”

Ever have a song that just speaks to you during the season you’re in?  This has been my go-to and on repeat for months.

Unlike the song that was actively looping through my mind, this blog post sat dormant and in draft mode for months.  To be honest, I’m still not sure why…  Maybe it was somewhat due to fear– of living in Guatemala and not having access to the best medical care.  Maybe it was due to pressure– the pressure that is placed on all of us to make some sort of grandiose announcement when seasons change in our life– complete with professional pictures to show its perfection.  Maybe it was due to how I so deeply identified with it– as I had also spent years in “draft mode”… warding off the questions from well intentioned friends and family on when the next chapter of our life would begin.

I waited for the perfect words for this moment, almost feeling encumbered by the expectation of others to post something more… But I realized the simplicity of this statement is beautiful and big enough on its own.  We are pregnant.

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Renewing My Mind

When I woke up at 5am, I had already decided my mood for that day.  I wish I could give you some fantastic missionary answer and tell you that despite my circumstances, I had chose joy… but I hadn’t.  I was irritated.  My face burned hot with anger, a trait that I unfortunately inherited honest from my Dad.

The night before, a transformer had blown, leaving our house and many others without power or water.  The nighttime temps of course were in the 90’s, the air was still, and mosquitos kept zipping in through the windows and persistently buzzing around my face. I covered myself up with the sheet and got hot.  When I’d uncover myself, the mosquitos went into attack mode on my arms and legs.  Have you ever tried to sleep when you’re frustrated?  It’s a vicious cycle of being angry that you can’t sleep, and not sleeping because you’re too angry to do so.

I learned in the morning that my frustration could become a vicious cycle too.  When I got ready, I carried my frustration to me into work.  I was tired, sweaty, covered in bug bites, I clearly had gotten ready in the dark, and I somehow managed to sit in a puddle of cat urine on one of the outdoor couches. I hate cats.  At this point, my attitude was as ripe as my odor.  Everything stunk.

It wasn’t until I pulled up the demographics of the baby we were going to get that I realized what an ungrateful piece of work I had presented myself as that morning.  You would think that I live a life of 24/7 gratitude when you see the things I see on a daily basis. I love where I’m at, I love what I do, and I’m thankful we have air conditioning..  but it’s amazing how quickly I unraveled after a night without electricity and water.

We were heading to a really remote village La Ceiba in the mountains of Camotan to pick up a baby in a village that I’d visited many times before.

“Did you notice where we’re going?”  Alfredo had asked me. I shook my head yes.
“How about the baby’s last name?” I opened the message with the baby’s demographics.
“He has the last name as Valentin,” I responded. It was then that I found out we were traveling to pick up the nephew of one of my patients.

I sunk back into the seat of the ambulance realizing that I couldn’t carry my ungrateful attitude back into the same house I had visited before.  I opened a blog post that I had written the day Valentin passed away.  (click to read previous blog)

“Be grateful in ALL things, not just the easy things.”

The words in bold I had written that day were both salt and salve to my wound.  It burned, knowing how I had acted like a petulant child that morning.  It healed me, knowing that The Lord had provided me this 2+ hour long journey to pull myself back together. I bowed my head and prayed as hot tears welled up in my eyes.  “Lord, I know it’s only 7AM and I have acted a complete fool.  Please let me honor Valentin and honor you in how I carry myself today.”

When we arrived to the small house made of palm fronds, sticks, and plastic tarp, we were greeted by the same brother and sister in law who had presented Valentin to us.  Only this time, we were there for their malnourished son.  We all started crying as we reminisced Valentin’s earthly body.  Though very sick for the last few years of his life, Valentin carried on a legacy of joy and great faith through every one he ever met.  He never complained– despite years spent in severe poverty, severe sickness, and severe pain.

The Roque family — Valentin’s brother and sister in law and baby Victor. He is 2 years old and showing signs of moderate to severe malnutrition.

Could I ever be like Valentin?  Could I ever be full of joy despite my circumstances and surroundings?

Romans 12:2 says “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is–his good, pleasing and perfect will.”

Renewing of your mind.  As I sat in the back of the ambulance, holding Valentin’s sick nephew, I realized how things truly come full circle.  I pray that my mind is constantly renewed with joy, with gratefulness, and with patience.  That even when I’m exhausted and covered in dirt, bug bites, and dry cat pee, that I don’t allow negativity to creep in.  How dare I even for one second have the right to be frustrated, knowing later that day I would be face to face with a family that lost their young brother and was now struggling to provide for their malnourished baby.  May we never forget the blessings in our lives.  I pray my mind is renewed and the overflow is thankfulness, even, and especially, on the hard days.

What are you thankful for today?
-Whit